WHAT I DO
I work with individuals, couples and internationals around:
Relationships & relational dynamics
Relationships can bring out the best in us and sometimes the most immature parts. We explore the patterns that shape your relationships, what may be getting in the way, and how to create a stronger connection and partnership. This can be relevant to your relationship with a partner or someone you’re dating, as well as with family, friends, colleagues or other important people in your life. I work with communication challenges and breakdown, conflict, disconnection, intimacy, insecurity, boundaries, people pleasing, trust, betrayal, relationship repair, separation, family conflicts, neurodivergence, culture, identity, power, inequality and dating.
Life changes
Change and transition can challenge our sense of who we are and how we relate to the people around us. I work with relocation, career changes, family changes, loss and separation.
Anxiety, stress and burn out
Periods of stress and pressure can leave us feeling overwhelmed, disconnected or unsure of what we need. I work with stress, anxiety, low mood, culture shock, loneliness, homesickness, repatriation, professional challenges, pressure and capacity.
HOW I WORK
Individuals
My work is integrative, intuitive and relational, drawing from a wide range of evidence-based models. When you come to therapy with me, either on your own or with your partner, we use the conversation to explore what is happening – we work through difficult thoughts, feelings and experiences. We look at behavioural patterns and themes so that you can gain understanding and clarity and have more choice going forward.
Talk therapy is not the same as talking to a friend or your partner. The focus is entirely on you and what you need, while I use my professional knowledge and experience to provide perspective, explore behaviours, maintain direction, and help you develop greater awareness, and choice. We may also work on practical skills to help communicate, connect and relate differently.
Talk therapy is a focused conversation between a trained therapist and a client.
Couples
As your couples therapist, my goal is to help you understand each other better, make changes that work for both of you, and give you tools you can use long after therapy ends.
Every couple has their own reasons for seeking support, but most come looking for greater clarity, understanding and a closer connection. As the relationship changes, many also experience more joy, greater intimacy and sex, and a renewed sense of hope for the future.
Conversation is at the heart of couples therapy. You talk with each other, and with me. We sit together in my room, have a coffee or tea, in a relaxed and informal atmosphere.
I help guide the conversation, and make sure you both have the space to be heard. I can also help translate difficult feelings or messages, so that what you are trying to say can be understood by your partner.
Because I am trained to listen for the nuances beneath what is being said, I can help you notice things that are difficult to see when you are caught in the moment. Together, we can uncover misunderstandings, unspoken feelings and the relational patterns that may be getting in the way of the connection you want.
I don’t believe in quick fixes. I believe in getting beneath the surface to understand what is driving the difficulties in your relationship and the patterns you find yourselves caught in.
The decisions you make should make sense for the two of you. Couples therapy is not about deciding who is right or wrong. It is about helping you understand yourselves and each other more deeply, take responsibility for your part in the relationship, and find new ways of relating so that life together can become better and more fulfilling for both of you.
How we can work together
I expect you to come ready to engage — whether we’re working individually or in couples therapy. You don’t need to have been in therapy before, and you don’t need to know exactly what to expect from it. You are welcome to be curious, uncertain, or even sceptical about what therapy can offer. Together we will discover what it can do for you.
There are different ways we can work together, depending on what is happening in your life and what you need. We can meet regularly for therapy, or, if you want more focused time, you may find a double session or intensive more helpful.
Regular sessions give you the opportunity to work on your issues or your relationship over time, practise new ways of communicating and responding, and gradually make changes that can become part of everyday life.
An intensive gives you dedicated time to focus on you or your relationship without the usual interruptions of everyday life. It can be particularly useful when you are in a difficult period, feel stuck in the same patterns, or want to make a concentrated effort to change things. Intensives are designed for individuals and couples who want to dive deeply into therapeutic work. You might choose an intensive:
- If you are in crisis, either personally or in your relationship, and need focused support
- You may feel stuck in unhelpful patterns that you have struggled to shift in standard therapy
- You may be facing a major life transition or decision and want clarity and direction
- It may suit you if you struggle to commit to weekly therapy due to work, travel, or lifestyle demands. Please inquire for more information.
Who am I
I have spent more than 30 years abroad, mainly in Hong Kong, the UK, Holland, the US and Australia. I have built a life across cultures and raised three children abroad, experiencing firsthand both the freedom and the challenges of creating a new home in new places, time and again.
My foundational training is a Master’s degree in Clinical Counselling. I have completed advanced training with the Couples Institute.I have also trained in Gottman Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), drawing on systemic thinking, trauma-informed practice, and practical approaches to creating lasting change in relationships. Alongside my couples work, I have additional training in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Currently I am completing certification in Relational Life Therapy (RLT).
I am a member of the Danish Psychotherapy Association (MPF) and a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
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Read more about how I do couples therapy here.
