Each couple is different and often faces a unique set of circumstances. Some couples come into counseling to deal with specific difficulties early in their relationship, while others search out couples therapy when the relationship has turned negative and the concerns are more entrenched. Finally, some couples seek guidance in the process of ending their relationship.
In treating couples, it is equally important to be aware of specific individual difficulties that have become part of the current relational difficulties. We often see relationships that are struggling when one or both in a couple is also suffering from depression or anxiety.
- Identify negative patterns that are hindering the quality of your relationship & friendship
- Stop blaming each other so you can work through problems without power struggles
- Disarm conflicting verbal communications
- Increase intimacy, respect, and affection
- Remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations
- Recognize the damaging cyclical patterns in your relationship
- Handle daily stressors that interfere with romance and intimacy
- Repair your relationship after a breach of trust
- Aside from the work we will do in the sessions, you will often be given homework so that lessons from the session can continue throughout the week.
How to manage conflict:
Many couples make the mistake of assuming that conflict is bad when it really isn’t; it’s a natural, unavoidable part of a relationship. In fact, conflicts, when communicated in healthy ways, can result in increased growth and greater closeness with your partner. However, it is often not possible, or even important, to solve every problem that comes along. Actual solutions to problems are less important than the manner in which they are communicated.
Perpetual problems are issues that will never go away because they come from differences in personality, innate values, or lifestyle needs. These are the types of problems that result in “argument loops” that go nowhere but cause a lot a havoc in relationships. Couples unable to manage perpetual problems often end up calling it quits, only to get into new relationships and trade one set of perpetual problems for a different set of perpetual problems. All couples have these perpetual problems. When you learn to identify them and discuss them properly, the amount of unnecessary conflict will considerably lessen.
How to repair your relationship after an affair:
Repairing a relationship after an affair can be one of the hardest things to do and often requires significant commitment and work. You may no longer be working on the same marriage, but instead on a new way of being together; the marriage is no longer the way it was. That can be a daunting task, but after the work is done, I have seen marriages become closer and more intimate than they ever were before the affair.
Please complete the form below, and one of our therapists will get in contact with you within 24 hours.